There have been many lessons learned this year. One of the areas I have been working on within myself is my limiting beliefs. I wanted to share with you what I have learned and how you too can identify and let go of your own limiting beliefs, with actionable tools to help you move forward and live your best and bravest life.
Letting go of limiting beliefs
So, what is a limiting belief?
A limiting belief is something we believe to be true instead of something we know to be true.
Our limiting beliefs come from when someone has said something to us that makes us think or believe something that stops us from moving forward. It could be from anyone, our community, our family, friends, teachers, school. It could come from anything.
These beliefs stick in our subconscious mind and can prevent us from moving forward in our life.
I give the example of when I was younger, and I went to my first ballet class, my mother was giggling at me as I frolicked across the room into her arms and cuddling me, she told me that I was more like a baby elephant than a ballerina.
I never went to ballet again. I believed that I was a baby elephant and that I couldn’t dance.
My mother never intended for me to take this as “I can’t dance”. She thought I was the cutest thing she had ever seen, but I took it as I am not graceful like a ballerina, and I thought that I couldn’t dance.
Now, as an adult, I do tap dancing, turns out I can dance!
This is a prime example of things people say to us, can affect us, and how they can turn into a belief about ourselves, which may not necessarily be correct and prevent us from doing something, thus creating a limiting belief.
Limiting beliefs can lead to self-doubt. The self-doubt won’t leave you until you work out where it came from.
"Limiting beliefs are about your perception of yourself, who you are as a person and what you are capable of accomplishing. "
We all have faults, when we can acknowledge these things in our life, it is very liberating.
No matter what you think, you believe to be true about yourself, often isn’t true.
Things that you tell yourself like I must or rules that you think you need to apply to. Such as I mustn’t behave that way, what would people think of me if I did that. Stop you from moving forward.
Caring what people think about who you are, can stop us in our tracks from moving forward.
I give you the gift of something I have said for a very long time, When I used to worry about what people thought of me, I came up with the phrase “I don’t care what you say.” Stay true to you. Who you are and don’t let anyone sway you.
Actionable tools to help you identify your limiting beliefs
Pay attention to the words you say to yourself. Not what your intuition is telling you, listen to your limiting belief.
But what if I can’t tell the difference between intuition and limiting beliefs?
Your intuition is connected to the feeling and the knowing within yourself. Your intuition is a knowing like a phrase mother’s gut instinct. It’s something you know, you feel it in your bones. A limiting belief is often a negative voice in your head telling you you can’t, or you don’t etc.
As with your intuition, there is a feeling of KNOWING. With Limiting beliefs, these ideas will stop you from doing something, and you will have more self-doubt or uncertainty.
Some tools that I have found useful for me to get over my own limiting beliefs.
Write down how many times you have spoken negatively to yourself, over a day or a month and see what happens. Every time say: I’m not sure, I don’t know, I can’t what will they think etc. You may be surprised what comes up and how often.
Instead of saying I can’t.
Try saying I can.
Switch words can be like a little gift.
I share with you ways in which you can use switch words, and how these words can impact your life.
Fill yourself with positivity and finding gratitude. Knowing that you can and you will.
When you start talking to yourself in a positivity way, your subconscious believes it. This is how we begin to shift our limiting beliefs.
Life is precious, take a chance, be brave and unlock your limiting beliefs.
Being able to unlock and ravel out limiting beliefs can help us to move forward and live a life we love.
I share how limiting beliefs have shaped me and how I have personally worked on letting them go and how this has positively impacted my life. Not just for myself, but also for others.
Want to learn more?
If you would like to learn more about Limiting Beliefs, join me and a fantastic team of Brave Hearts who are experts in the field of LETTING GO OF LIMITING beliefs at The Festival of BRAVE
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